06 Aug De-Addicting From Tea
Anyone who knows me knows that I have always been a tea aficionado. Right from my childhood, when I would be doing my homework or preparing for my exams or trying to meet a deadline for a history or geography project, tea was my saviour. My mom usually stayed up late till midnight just to make tea for me when I was labouring on. Tea and I go way back.
I don’t precisely remember when and how I started developing a love for tea, but it must have been when I was somewhere between 12-15 yrs old.
On the rigs, not having tea was a constant torture for me. I had to make do with the horrible milk powder tea, which really isn’t tea at all. It’s just a decoction of sorts to keep you alive & numb to the insanity all around you. It wasn’t something you enjoy. It was just something you take like a tonic, for the nerves. Because drugs are illegal. (Just kidding, alright)
I loved Mumbai cutting chai. Many of my fond memories of Mumbai include having chai at some corner, or outside some local station, or at some utterly random spot, drenched in rain. Tea just makes everything alright. Rain or storm, love or heartbreak, happiness or sorrow. Some of my fondest memories of my past relationships have been someone making tea (right type of tea or wrong type of tea) when I am in the throes of something crazy, or when we were in the middle of a fight. It’s like taking a time out from the fight for tea. A tea pause. Then you resume the fight after, on a more mellow note.
My day usually starts with tea. And when I say “usually” I’m just being coy. It pretty much had to start with tea or someone would face the brunt of my day starting all wrong. Whoever happened to tick me off by arguing with me or generally giving me unsolicited advice on something. These are usually the buttons you would not be pressing if you want to maintain a happy rapport with me. If I didn’t have my morning tea, your chances of being on the wrong side of me get multiplied by 10x.
So when I say that I was addicted to tea, it’s putting it mildly.
So this is how I finally got de-addicted from tea: it doesn’t mean I don’t drink tea anymore. It just means that I don’t drink it as often, and don’t feel like my life is disarray if it is not there. I don’t have a craving for tea.
Let me just mention one thing here: tea is not exactly bad for you. It can be good for you. It depends on your constitution. But addiction to anything is inherently bad, no matter what it is. Because it is like you feel something is wrong with you or your life if that something is not there, and that feeling needs to be completed. It is not the object, but your relationship with the object that needs to be healed.
Suppressing yourself is just not the way to deal with an addiction. It only makes it worse. “Control” is not the way to do it. More people need to understand this when dealing with addictions.
The most intriguing aspect of this story is that I did not do anything actively to end my addiction to tea! I started Nirahara Samyama and on day 1 itself, my stomach was running like a tap. Nirahara Samyama means consuming only liquids. It detoxes your entire body, removing all toxins and waste from your body. A true sign of when you are completely detoxed is that the input and output both is liquid. In my case, this started on day one itself. I was already detoxed! I did not really need any detoxification. For normal people this takes 3 days on an average.
I continued with the Nirahara Samyama for 3 full days, despite the stomach upset. I continued with my running and yoga routine of 2.5 hrs as well. I was operating really fine on just liquids. Did not feel any weakness etc. But I had to stop taking milk and milk products, or minimize it to a good extent. That was making my stomach upset worse.
And after three days I suddenly realized that I no longer feel like having tea, or want tea. I no longer relish it the way I did. And I felt alright about it. It was just that simple.
I ended my Nirahra Samyama on day four. But it still gave me multiple breakthroughs. And after almost 48 hrs, I am still de-addicted from tea. I don’t particularly need it first thing in the morning. I might concoct a different drink for myself for starting my day. I’m still thinking over it. I’ll see what is good for my constitution. Probably something with lemon.
I was myself surprised at how I got de-addicted from tea without even trying. Then I remembered that I have been trying to help this guy with some addictions. He asked for third eye healing for it. He has made some slow progress. And I have set my sankalpa for him to be healed almost every day. Maybe this is just a side effect of that. What you give, comes back, sometimes in unexpected ways 🙂